Thriving in my feminine energy

Hey Girl! Today we are talking about feminine energy.

I remember when i used to think being feminine just wasn’t me. I wasn’t raised to be very feminine and i was rather masculine in my energy to be honest… not a tomboy just not very graceful or feminine. I really thought that it was normal until i got on social media and seen the most feminine women and i was mind blown. In my hometown there wasn’t too many feminine women but i did have one that I modeled after and she was a family friend. She was just always so feminine and put together. She was THAT GIRL PERIOD. That’s where I had my start. I wanted to do self care, learn makeup, and learn how to be as beautiful, feline and put together as she was.

Even though I started to master the looks according to what i wanted… I was still not feminine. Looking feminine and being feminine are two different things and I believe the differentiator is grace.

After years of studying and living… I’ve found that a big part of my struggle with being in m feminine energy was me unknowingly being in constant survival mode. The feminine can not thrive in chaos, scarcity and survival mode. You don’t have time to be soft, patient and calm when you’re quite literally trying to survive. 

Don’t think for a second that it just pertains to surviving physically, but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually as well. Imagine trying to survive in all areas for years and years and years… Cooked.

The best thing i did for myself was release myself from toxic environments and relationships. You absolutely can not rest in your feminine energy in those environments or situations. I retreated and surround myself with only those who had my best interest at hand and that left only my husband and kids for a very long time. During that time i was able to reset and regulate my nervous system which then opened the door for my femininity to enter. 

Being more feminine for me means slow mornings… I don’t rush to do anything, I don’t overthink anything, i prioritize myself in all areas and pour into myself. I allow thing to grow as i nurture what nurtures me and i can take time to breath and focus on me. 

This is the epitome of feminine energy and I am finally able to embrace my own now at the age of 31… crazy right? 

If you want to be more in your feminine energy you have to put yourself in situations and environments that pour into you.. not take away from you. The tell tell sign is you… trust your gut and know that in reality your gut and how you feel will never steer you wrong. If you don’t feel happy or loved or safe you aren’t tripping despite what your toxic environments and relationships tell you. Secondly you need to prioritize yourself… Prioritizing yourself is deeper than self care but boundaries that you set to protect your energy and what you’re building and its ok to let things that do not serve you… It’s you and your wellness vs them. Choose wisely.

You are worthy of love, peace, happiness, calmness, slowness, and choosing you. Never allow anyone to make you feel guilty for choosing you. Everything you do flows from you.. you can’t pour from an empty cup love. 

I wish you the best on your journey to becoming more feminine, you are worthy of that girl… The doors that open for you will be unimaginable. Choose you.